Thank you for this article Peggy! I recently had a very traumatic experience and wrote an article about it on how we re-traumatize ourselves and others by replaying or retelling horrible events over and over. It can really do some emotional damage. By praying and using other tools can help release trauma so it won't get stuck in our bodies. There is so much pain in the world and us sensitive people need to support one another in healthy ways.
I'm choking up. This came exactly when I needed it. I've been praying about how to connect with my daughter after learning that she got a DUI, lost her driver's license and has almost two years to get back to normal driving status. Not even 30, she's already been divorced, has a 7 year old to care for, and the only job she can find that pays enough to support herself is bartending. Your article was my outline to write her a loving, supporting email that I hope she takes to heart. Thank you so much.
Thank you for sharing that, Peggy. Your words of wisdom bring us comfort for tragedies we have already suffered and are sure to experience in the future. No matter how busy you are, you always take time for kindness.
Like you said, I understand when other’s don’t know what to do, myself included. But when our daughter was in a coma and we were told she was brain dead. In the ICU, feeling alone and in such pain, so many from churches, friends, told me to let them know if we needed anything. That was the last thing on my mind. Starving would have been just fine. After this experience, I have vowed never to put the burden or responsibility on the person suffering. Asking that question, frankly, sounds a bit ridiculous to me now. Even checking back a month or two when no one is visiting or bringing meals. Because when the dust settles, thats another opportunity to reach out and do some good.
Good advice Dawn, it’s such an automatic response. I never thought asking “let me know if you need anything “ put a burden on the one suffering but it makes sense. Just step up & comfort. So sorry for the loss of your precious daughter🙏
“That’s a perfect example of sympathy, caring and compassion: simply being a witness to someone else's grief; being there for them, and just showing up. That is often enough” —- beautifully and perfectly said ❤️🙏🏾
I want to leave this for you to have a listen.. https://juxtaposition1.substack.com/p/time-for-refection-a-time-out
Thank you for this article Peggy! I recently had a very traumatic experience and wrote an article about it on how we re-traumatize ourselves and others by replaying or retelling horrible events over and over. It can really do some emotional damage. By praying and using other tools can help release trauma so it won't get stuck in our bodies. There is so much pain in the world and us sensitive people need to support one another in healthy ways.
Thank you for your ministry, Peggy, and these realistic words of support.
I'm choking up. This came exactly when I needed it. I've been praying about how to connect with my daughter after learning that she got a DUI, lost her driver's license and has almost two years to get back to normal driving status. Not even 30, she's already been divorced, has a 7 year old to care for, and the only job she can find that pays enough to support herself is bartending. Your article was my outline to write her a loving, supporting email that I hope she takes to heart. Thank you so much.
Excellent, helpful advice - thank you!
Thank you for sharing that, Peggy. Your words of wisdom bring us comfort for tragedies we have already suffered and are sure to experience in the future. No matter how busy you are, you always take time for kindness.
Like you said, I understand when other’s don’t know what to do, myself included. But when our daughter was in a coma and we were told she was brain dead. In the ICU, feeling alone and in such pain, so many from churches, friends, told me to let them know if we needed anything. That was the last thing on my mind. Starving would have been just fine. After this experience, I have vowed never to put the burden or responsibility on the person suffering. Asking that question, frankly, sounds a bit ridiculous to me now. Even checking back a month or two when no one is visiting or bringing meals. Because when the dust settles, thats another opportunity to reach out and do some good.
Good advice Dawn, it’s such an automatic response. I never thought asking “let me know if you need anything “ put a burden on the one suffering but it makes sense. Just step up & comfort. So sorry for the loss of your precious daughter🙏
Ditto Franklin’s comment. Thank you !!
“That’s a perfect example of sympathy, caring and compassion: simply being a witness to someone else's grief; being there for them, and just showing up. That is often enough” —- beautifully and perfectly said ❤️🙏🏾