I woke up 12 years ago in a personal respect. I feel your pain. I've had the misfortune of being conned by a narcissistic psychopath and as a result she moved in next door to me more than 11 years ago. The problem with these people is that they lie so well that they are believable. I will be giving thanks this year because she is FINALLY moving.
There are definitely narcissistic psychopaths! I have encountered 4. I am a magnet for them. That said, there is a difference between just plain personality differences and actual psychopathic personalities. And, there are more and more of these today than ever primarily because we have a broken judicial system which keeps letting them go on to damage other people. Many of them are in Congress today. They have NO MORAL COMPASS.
Yes, I sure do know them - and as a result have been struggling with weak boundaries, people pleasing, and perfectionism my whole life. Realizing this was part of my great awakening to both everything that was going on in the world and within myself (what a lot to deal with all at once!) when the cooties kicked off. This video was very helpful, and I am going to watch it a second time now - please do make more videos like this!
The more I hear and read about difficult people, the more I realized that this is another way for us to divide ourselves. When we label other people as difficult, narcissistic, argumentative, and my all time favorite - toxic, we are affirming our own self-righteousness and our own superiority to others. I am 74 and thinking back to my childhood and all the social interactions, I never recall hearing people label others the way we do today. I think we have been tricked into finding ways to distance people from ourselves. So, even if I do say "Would you like to hear what I think?", I am making sure that I am heard,which can just as easily be construed as self-centeredness or self-importance. I think we need to just let people be people and quit labeling each other.
I’ve thought about that. My gramma who was 95 passed away this month… and you never heard her say an ill word about anyone. She accepted everyone … as they were…
Faults and all. She never complained or tried to change anyone.
That’s the way you live a nice long life. Live and let live.
This is brilliant and such a confirmation.... sadly, I happen to be married to this type of person. Working the Twelve Steps of AA and researching co-dependency has helped, but your specific responses have helped me a great deal. Thank you, Peggy.
This came at the perfect time for me, thank you Peggy!
Great tips 👍. Happy thanksgiving 🦃
I woke up 12 years ago in a personal respect. I feel your pain. I've had the misfortune of being conned by a narcissistic psychopath and as a result she moved in next door to me more than 11 years ago. The problem with these people is that they lie so well that they are believable. I will be giving thanks this year because she is FINALLY moving.
There are definitely narcissistic psychopaths! I have encountered 4. I am a magnet for them. That said, there is a difference between just plain personality differences and actual psychopathic personalities. And, there are more and more of these today than ever primarily because we have a broken judicial system which keeps letting them go on to damage other people. Many of them are in Congress today. They have NO MORAL COMPASS.
Most narcissists are also addicts… of multiple things-
drugs, alcohol, sex, serial adulterers, gambling addicts, Addicted to Money, power, fame …
They’re dangerous people because they lie to manipulate everyone around them, all the time.
I swear, aren't there more of them than 50 years ago? Or is it me, I just didn't
recognize them as I was too self absorbed :-)!!
Yes, I sure do know them - and as a result have been struggling with weak boundaries, people pleasing, and perfectionism my whole life. Realizing this was part of my great awakening to both everything that was going on in the world and within myself (what a lot to deal with all at once!) when the cooties kicked off. This video was very helpful, and I am going to watch it a second time now - please do make more videos like this!
The more I hear and read about difficult people, the more I realized that this is another way for us to divide ourselves. When we label other people as difficult, narcissistic, argumentative, and my all time favorite - toxic, we are affirming our own self-righteousness and our own superiority to others. I am 74 and thinking back to my childhood and all the social interactions, I never recall hearing people label others the way we do today. I think we have been tricked into finding ways to distance people from ourselves. So, even if I do say "Would you like to hear what I think?", I am making sure that I am heard,which can just as easily be construed as self-centeredness or self-importance. I think we need to just let people be people and quit labeling each other.
I’ve thought about that. My gramma who was 95 passed away this month… and you never heard her say an ill word about anyone. She accepted everyone … as they were…
Faults and all. She never complained or tried to change anyone.
That’s the way you live a nice long life. Live and let live.
OMG that was my grandmother too! And my Aunt.....99 years old when she died.
Difficult people may be envious and jealous of you. They may feel economically inferior.
This is brilliant and such a confirmation.... sadly, I happen to be married to this type of person. Working the Twelve Steps of AA and researching co-dependency has helped, but your specific responses have helped me a great deal. Thank you, Peggy.
Wished I subscribed earlier.. Got you through Margaret Anna Alice, bless her.
Bless you too...this was spot on brilliant, perceptive, well said and thank you to
infinity and back for what to say when dealing with difficult people.!
Wonderful
I never thought of those!
Thank you much!!